'Once upon a time there was humanity' Art by Pam Walder
I feel like I am working really hard at keeping my core intact and losing traction. That whole decision I made in 2000, "Be Better, not Bitter", from 2016 through today, the hard truth of how so many people in our society that were hiding in plain sight, are just nasty, unkind, unloving, refuse to walk in any one else's shoes, makes out full races as "other" and browbeat them with their anger and fear because they are not, or don't look, white. Violence against them when they are weaker than them, I am talking about the murders of black people and about the Asian hate spewed at elderly Asian's beaten in the streets. My heart is wrenching for them and it makes me feel angry and my warrior rears her ugly head!
I am trying REALLY hard not to judge them harshly, but I have to tell you it is SO painful to hear them talk...and I feel with the hate spewed all over us in the Country since 2016, I really feel shut down and in a full blown PTSD response to them.
I know that people judge the world by who they are at the core. And like Maya Angelou taught us "Believe them the FIRST time they tell us who they are". Struggling with HOW do we keep lines of communication open when all we hear are vile things against us? Or worse yet, when they ASSUME I think like them and they have NO idea who I am, let alone that I have Mexican roots because I "look" white. That I am homophobic and not understanding of transgender struggles, not knowing how many family members and friends I have that are LGBTQ. That I have always been an advocate for them. I am still that teenager being called a 'fag-hag' because I had gay friends, and I still don't understand the hate.
People think they can say horrible things and I am supposed to just agree and shut up. I struggle with how to be kind when I am confronted with issues like this, without losing my shit, without being wordless, without being in shock. Why do I always go into shock and just shut down?
I can remember having this conversation with WGB while in Montana 4 years ago and the bane of everything are those damn Mexicans. As I sit there...wondering what the fuck...angry white man...what am I supposed to say to that? WGB thought maybe it was a moment for me to teach them, I said fuck no, and I think part of that was being the ONLY "other" at the table and to hear more foul things come out of their mouths, and quite honestly being a woman doesn't help in that situation either, I just wasn't in a space to take that on. And then later wondered if I should have anyway...
I have that happen in my own damn family. The side that isn't Mexican...like they totally don't know who the hell I am. Well in honesty, I guess they really don't. I wasn't raised with them, and now I am SO grateful I wasn't. It has been a complicated relationship since I was abandoned at birth.
Even my father has said deplorable things about "Mexican's" and I was like, Dad! You DO KNOW WHO YOU ARE TALKING TO RIGHT????? My half brother, shaking my head, the last text, I was asking him if he got vaccinated yet, (He had covid early on, before Delta) he was in the hospital with a horrible infection in his leg and his response "Got the first round. Mixed feelings about it but too many migrants, hate to do it but not much choice"... so of course it is ALL the "migrants" fault, nothing to do with white people in the South and Midwest REFUSING to follow science. Taking horse de-wormer when they get it and if they survive that then it was the cure! But they want to take credit for getting the vaccine so fast under the last person in the White House but refuse to take the vaccine and take everything but that! I am left shaking my head wondering what the fuck a lot.
Seriously I know of a woman who won't get vaccinated, took the de-wormer, is getting better and every one praying is thankful for that medicine working! SERIOUSLY?
Total vaccinations in the Unite States:
WGB and I talk all the time about not understanding people and where they get their information. And we know that even some of the information we get is skewed but I find it really hard to believe that intelligent people follow such harmful information.
I see people asking on social media if anyone they personally know has died of Covid, are you kidding me? Yes, 4 of my friends died... How many people have to die for them to KNOW it is a serious situation. Over 600,000 people who died in the United States is not enough for you to get vaccinated? Masks are for protection not for political bullshit. But every where we go, so many people are unmasked! Like we are not in a pandemic! That 2,544 children hospitalized currently nationwide. They don't have a vaccine and I am terrified for my 6 year old grand who is sweet and reliant on the adults around her!
- The unvaccinated are 5x likely to get an infection
- 10X likely to be hospitalized
- 11x likely to DIE
And they are angry that our current President is making an unpopular and needed decision to mandate vaccinations?
- 17 Million health care workers
- 4 Million Federal Government employees and contractors
I cannot even imagine a health care worker NOT getting vaccinated seeing what is happening, but I know some are. With people refusing to do the simplest things to get back to normal life, I understand the stance that is being taken by the administration! We cured Polio! Everyone stood in line for vaccinations!
The Re-call of our Governor Gavin Newsome...this has been stressful for me. I am not a huge fan of Gavin, but in all honesty I stand by the decisions he made with this pandemic. 70.6% of California's population is vaccinated that is 39,283, 497 people! Was it great everything was shut down? No. Was it necessary, yes! Is it a hard restart, yes! Shit is not easy ever, but trying to do the right thing should be the number one thing we are actively doing. Honestly WGB and I think we are the only weird ones still doing everything we are supposed to.
Yesterday I just posted on FB that "You still have time to go vote until 8 pm" and I received a comment from someone that doesn't know me in real life, "You tried", I raised my eyebrow and thought about what I was going to write about on this post...assuming I wanted to throw Gavin out and have a trumper take his place. No thank you, I have had enough of that since 2016.
Honestly now I don't feel safe going out and doing the things I want to because people are still refusing to get a vaccine or wear masks in public. I have no thyroid, I am vaccinated but I don't want to get sick. I am trying to reengage, but I am struggling with trust issues. I am struggling...and I am starting to get angry that people didn't do things they should be doing, and that is why I am still in lock down. People are still dying and being hospitalized at rates that we haven't seen in 7 months and people are still refusing to believe! I am angry now. I am sad. I am wanting my life back too...but I am not willing to run around where there are a lot of people not wearing masks and how do I know if they were vaccinated? If you are sick around me 99% of the time I get it. I have since both my thyroids were removed when I was 23 years old. I struggle with all the effects of not having them, I don't need to add anything to the struggle.
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